• Diwali

    Today, Wednesday 11th November, marks the first of the five day celebration of Diwali. Diwali is a festival of light that celebrates goodness over evil and knowledge over ignorance. It is celebrated by Hindus, Sikhs and Jains in India and around the world. Diwali is a word derived from Sanskrit, meaning "row of lights". It honours the goddess of wealth, Lakshmi, and the legend of Rama and Sita. It is celebrated by decorating houses and public spaces with thousands of lights, candles and colourful designs. Fireworks, family gatherings and gift giving also form parts of the celebrations.

    In Hinduism, light is seen as a metaphor for self-improvement, self-awareness and community, and its celebration allows followers to reaffirm their commitment to such values.

    Diwali – derived from the Sanskrit, “deepawali”, meaning “row of lights” – also marks the beginning of the Hindu New Year. Some followers will pray for good business prospects in the months to come.

    Specific rituals and traditions vary between regions, and may last four or five days. Many Indian towns and cities hold a large mela – fair – that often involves farmers coming to buy and sell produce.

    Traditionally the day of Diwali involves Lakshmi Puja – prayer, invocations and rituals for the goddess Lakshmi – and the distribution of new clothes, sweetmeats and other gifts. Crackers are ubiquitous.

    The day after is given over to Govardhan Puja – worship of Lord Govardhan Puja – which, according to legend, was performed by Lord Krishna with a group of mortals to protect them from torrential rain.

    On the last day, Bhaiyadooj, women give presents to their male siblings, and the Diwali festivities end in memorable fashion.

    Rangoli – Indian folk art patterns that are thought to be more than 5,000 years old – are drawn on floors of courtyards, and entrances of houses throughout Diwali, as another way to welcome Lakshmi. Many of the beautiful tracings incorporate flowers, petals and shapes of lotus blossom; others are simply geometric shapes.

    Fireworks displays have become an integral part of Diwali celebrations both in India and around the world, all the more because the festival takes place around the night of the new moon (Amavasya).

    Families spread over cities, countries or continents for work or other reasons make an effort to come together to exchange greetings cards, clothes and gifts, such as sweets and dried fruits. New outfits are often worn, particularly saris among women, who may also paint hands and feet with henna dye.

    A celebratory meal is in order: dishes vary regionally and change daily throughout the festival. Lapsi – cracked grain wheat sautéed with ghee and sugar – is eaten on the first day, while Diwali day itself sees groups tucking into galaka, a squash curry, sweet flatbreads stuffed with cardamom known as poli, and sheera, a sweet made of semolina sautéed with raisins, cashews and saffron.

    Throughout, plain flatbreads are replaced by more extravagant puris, which are deep-fried in expensive ghee (clarified butter).

    Feasts are interspersed with never-ending supplies of sweet and savoury Diwali snacks, made from chickpea or rice flour, nuts, dried fruit, cinnamon, cloves and nutmeg. Gold leaf decorations adorn the sweets of the wealthiest.

    May This Diwali be as bright as ever.

    May this Diwali bring joy, health and wealth to you.

    May the festival of lights brighten up you and your near and dear ones lives.

    May this Diwali bring in u the most brightest and choicest happiness and love you have ever Wished for.

    May this Diwali bring you the utmost in peace and prosperity.

    May lights triumph over darkness.

    May peace transcend the earth.

    May the spirit of light illuminate the world.

    May the light that we celebrate at Diwali show us the way and lead us together on the path of peace and social harmony




  • The parable of the fern and the bamboo

    I have received two messages today, both with the same theme, which I thought I would pass on as the resonate deeply with my personal beliefs.

    The first is a daily message I receive from tut.com.

    'Life is like a dance and we're partners. Setbacks, delays, and detours? They're like steps in the mambo, tango, and cha-cha. If you dissected the movements and saw them without the rest of the dance, everyone would look to be in great pain. But when you see the big picture... poetry in motion.

    In life, setbacks, delays, and detours are often just my way of "keeping" you for something way better. Don't let them discourage you, don't see them out of context, and whatever you do, don't stop dancing.

    Your most able choreographer,

    The Universe'

    and on the same theme


    Let me share a story with you,

    One day I decided to quit.....I quit my job,my relationship,my spirituality.I wanted to quit my life.I went to the woods to have one last talk with God

    "God,I said."Can you give me one good reason not to quit?"

    His answer surprised me......

    "Look around,"He said."Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"

    "Yes," I replied.

    When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds,I took very good care of them.I gave them water.The fern quickly grew from the earth.Its brilliant green covered the floor.Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed.But I did not quit on the bamboo

    In the second year,the fern grew more vibrant and plentiful.And again,nothing came from the bamboo seed.But I did not quit on the bamboo tree.He said.

    In the third year,there was still nothing from the bamboo seed.But I would not quit.In the fourth year,again,there was nothing from the bamboo seed."I would not quit."He said.Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth.

    Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant.But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall.

    It had spent the five years growing roots

    Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needeed to survive.I would not give any of my creation a challenge it could not handle.

    He said to me."Did you know,my friend,that all this time you have been struggling,you have actually been growing roots."

    "I will not quit on the Bamboo.I will never quit on you.Don't compare yourself to others."He said.The Bamboo had a different purpose than the fern.Yet,they both make the forest beautiful."

    Your time will come,"God said to me." You will rise high!"How high should I rise? I asked."

    "How high will the bamboo rise?"He asked in return.

    "As high as it can?" I questioned.

    "Yes." He said,"Give me glory by rising as high as you can.

    I left the forest and bring back this story.

    I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you.....He knows your pain.

    Disappointments may come, prospects may become lummy, challenges may show up, people might laugh at you,but it is your Lord that will determine the end WINNER.My dear reader, are you waiting patiently for the right man to be your soul mate? are counting on God to bless you with the gift of the womb? are you working hard to achieve financial breakthrough and yet things are not working out for? Are you in a financial mess? Your creator is saying I'm working for you, keep the faith and he will turn your tests to testimonies.There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

    Whatever your condition,God knows your pains,

    However your situation,God knows your pains,

    Whenever your hope is almost dashed,God knows your pains

    Remember,God will not give up on you.



  • Channel 4 Sex Box

    I have been approached by award winning production company Clearstory who are currently working on a T.V. series for Channel 4. It’s a show that aims to get the people of Britain talking more openly and honestly about their sex lives so that we can be more open and encourage better sex for all.

    They are looking for people from all backgrounds, sexual orientations and relationship status’ who aren’t embarrassed about discussing their sexual habits, whether it be what turns them on in the bedroom to something they’ve never tried before and have always wanted to. Whatever it is, they want to hear from them!

    They believe that by sharing personal experiences with the nation we can all benefit and have better sex.

    I spent some time speaking with them about my views on sex and relationships, but I am not sure that they are interested in considering sex as something divine, but I said that I would write a blog with regard their request for people interested in taking part in the programme. So if you or anyone you know may be interested in taking part then please pass on the following from Clearstory.

    Do you love sex but want to spice things up in the bedroom?

    Is there something that you have never tried before?

    Then we want to hear from you!

    We want to celebrate good sex and are looking for people with healthy

    sexual relationships to take part in a new series of SexBox forChannel 4.We are looking for couples and singles from all backgrounds andsexual orientations. So if you and your partner would like to find out more please get in touch via email:contact@clearstory.co.uk

    by phone:02032432212302

    Don’t forget to include your name, age andcontact details


    Applications close at midnight on Sunday 29th November 2015



  • Thousands of British students are funding their way through university on so-called "sugar daddy" websites.

    i have just turned on the tv briefly whilst I ate my lunch and saw the last part of the programme 'Loose Women'. This being coincidental as a headline had caught my eye on my yahoo page this morning about students supporting themselves through University using Sugar Daddy sites.

    It seemed to me that the panellists on Loose Women completely missed the point, with Janet Street Porter being very vocal about the fact that we should not judge these girls for the choices that they make. The other three panelists, all who have daughters, would have been extremely upset if they discovered that their daughters were doing this.

    It seems to me that the argument should not have been about whether or not the girls should be judged for doing this, but more about, why we as a country are putting students in the position where they feel that they have to consider this an option in completing their University education.

    My own daughter who is aproaching 23, has just completed a three year degree course followed by a Masters. She was, you could say fortunate, that she took the option of missing a gap year and starting before the fees were hiked up to £9000 per year, although her Masters came in at this rate. She is still facing her future with huge debts, in spite of having waitressed through part of her degree. The Masters was full time in University with numerous assignments on the go at all times, so it was not physically possible for her to work as well as complete her coursework.

    Our young people are our future. Other countries manage to provide education free of charge - why can't we? Why are we putting our young people in the position where they even have to consider 'selling themselves' in order to achieve the education that they desire?

    The following report is taken from the Sky News website.

    The sites advertise themselves as a way for "beautiful, ambitious people to graduate debt free" through "arrangements" with older "sponsors".

    One site, SeekingArrangement.com, claims 12,600 UK students have signed up with proof of university enrolment.

    A 20-year-old student on the website told us she earns £2,000 a month from her "arrangement", which has become sexual.

    She said: "I've saved quite a lot. It pays for my travel, my books, I haven't had to take out a student loan. I've been quite well off."

    She claims the sugar world can turn sour for some on the site.

    "There's a very fine line between prostitution and being a sugar baby," she said.

    "Students are so vulnerable because it's quick money and they need money, students find it a quick way out."

    In an interview with Sky News, Brandon Wade, the founder of SeekingArrangement.com denied it was an escort site but that it enabled "sugar babies" to "upgrade their lifestyle".

    He said sex was never expected, but it is aspired to and that the website had led to countless marriages worldwide.

    "You want to find somebody who is well educated, who can provide for you financially, you know it's sort of the Disney dream so to say," said Mr Wade.

    He said the cost of university education rising - with tuition fees alone now up to £9,000 a year - has resulted in a huge increase in the number of students signing up.

    The following shows figures from 2013, which it would seem have risen drastically since the time of publishing

    SeekingArrangement.com has released the following list of "The fastest growing Sugar Baby schools in the UK". The universities are ranked according to new sign-ups for 2013:

    1. University of Kent - 208

    2. University of Nottingham - 195

    3. University of Manchester - 175

    4. University of Cambridge - 166

    5. University of Leeds - 143

    6. University of St. Andrews - 141

    7. University of Bristol - 134

    8. University of Exeter - 122

    9. University of Northampton - 117

    10. University of Westminster - 110

    11. Queens University of Belfast -100

    12. University of Arts London - 89

    13. University of Essex - 83

    14. London School of Economics - 72

    15. Glasgow Caledonian University -65

    16. Goldsmith University of London - 61

    17. King's College London - 59

    18. University of Ulster - 54

    19. University of Worcester - 51

    20. Swansea University - 49

    Video: The Sugar Baby Dictionary

    He claims there are 12 times more students on the website than in 2009.

    A married 62-year-old sugar daddy who is currently seeing four sugar babies told Sky News: "I wouldn't be able to meet girls as young and as beautiful as this through an ordinary dating website".

    He also said that "sex is an integral part of the site".

    He believed consensual relationships were "really appropriate for students" looking to supplement their bank accounts.

    "What a great way to get a little bit of extra pocket money and much better than having to spend eight hours slogging in a bar earning the minimum wage," he added.

    According to a poll run by the website, students are spending their funds from their relationships with sugar daddies on their tuition fees, rent, books and transport costs.



  • Sad story

    I went to London on Sunday to meet an old family friend for lunch and to view an exhibition at the National Portrait Gallery. During our lunch she told me of a story that I found quite unbelievable and very sad.

    She had recently returned from one of her regular visits to Devon. Whenever she is there she calls on an old lady, who was a lifelong friend of her aunt. This lady is now in her nineties. I think she said 95. She was widowed many years ago and lived a very independent life, driving herself out and about, but thirteen years ago her sight deteriorated and she was no longer allowed to drive. A lady from one of the clubs that she attended told her that she knew a man who had lost his wife, who helped people out driving them to appointments and things and she offered to put them in touch.

    I am sure that you think that you know where this is leading and am wondering why I said that i find it unbelievable and very sad. The gentleman is a younger than her, I cant remember by how many years, not that that has any relevance, but they did find they enjoyed each others company and started meeting regularly for coffee and meals out and visits to places they enjoyed, however, and this is the sad part, her son who must be around sixty was most unkind and has refused to have anything to do with her, telling her that she should be ashamed of herself and calling her a whore. I have no idea of the extent of their relationship, but find his attitude quite unbelievable. I would have thought he would have been pleased that his mother had found a person willing to help her and care for her and that she was having some enjoyment in her latter years.

    The story does get sadder, in that the poor man in helping her with a vacuum fell down a couple of stairs and broke his hip. He has been laid up in hospital and as she cannot drive she has been unable to visit him. My friend took her when she was down and was brought to tears when they told each other that they loved and missed the other. The lady had phoned her son in an attempt to explain and ask if he might take her to the hospital and the only response she got was that he didnt want to listen. He again called her a whore and slammed the phone down.

    It is a sad world when our adult children cannot be happy that we have some company and pleasure in our lives.

    I hope that they are able to enjoy each others company again soon.



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